tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301278.post6201579562537792831..comments2023-10-22T06:19:21.507-05:00Comments on General Blather: Heather Fucks It Up AgainGB, RNhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/09735213378851473207noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301278.post-69896326196859643332010-01-26T12:52:33.633-06:002010-01-26T12:52:33.633-06:00In the real world, trust CAN lead to hurt. In you...In the real world, trust CAN lead to hurt. In your world, trust MUST lead to hurt. Therein lies the problem.<br /><br />Being hurt really sucks, but it's part of life and living. The hurt will go away eventually. Call it a learning experience.<br /><br />It is OK to trust someone once they have earned it. The man who breaks that trust is an asshole and makes it harder on the rest of us Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301278.post-52839367816875669022010-01-20T04:36:40.726-06:002010-01-20T04:36:40.726-06:00My wife (#3 on the scorecard) had to examine why s...My wife (#3 on the scorecard) had to examine why she heard the same "tapes" in her head when I was nothing like her ex husbands. It took her a while but now she doesn't hear the tapes nearly as often and we're pretty happy.<br />Now that you know the issue, only you can take the necessary steps. Show this man the email and tell him you don't want to be like this anymore. YouJoehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14955078574626461009noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301278.post-3994386108231233442010-01-19T21:19:10.050-06:002010-01-19T21:19:10.050-06:00Talk to him! I did 25 years ago! Still do. Heather...Talk to him! I did 25 years ago! Still do. Heather, if you can put it here you can talk to him. Even if it's just reading this post to him, or giving it to him. HugsSpyderhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10469832764480816567noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301278.post-1227386795721718262010-01-16T08:40:15.217-06:002010-01-16T08:40:15.217-06:00Everyone is damaged goods in some way. But now th...Everyone is damaged goods in some way. But now that you have identified it, you can take steps to correct it. Like say, "Stop it, damned internal voice! You're full of crap!" Hokey, yes. But if you don't shut up your inner voice, it won't go away. Brains are wired to remember, even the bad things, but it's your job to dig out the bad memories and tell yourself thatMelindahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05321872473726824271noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301278.post-66785383867707449572010-01-15T18:59:46.032-06:002010-01-15T18:59:46.032-06:00Wow. We're in the same sort of predicament. My...Wow. We're in the same sort of predicament. My boyfriend of over 8 months ended things with me at the beginning of the year. He told me although I made him happy, the idiosyncrasies he had with me took precedence. I'm telling myself if he wants to work things out within 2 months, I'll give it a go. But if 2 months pass by and I still don't hear a word, we were truly NOT meant to Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301278.post-5142144984203468142010-01-15T12:32:31.392-06:002010-01-15T12:32:31.392-06:00No one is perfect, and everyone has "idiosync...No one is perfect, and everyone has "idiosyncrasies". There is no "the one" for anyone. It's simply a continuum of unacceptable vs. acceptable, and while most fall into the former, there is a fraction of the population that will be in the latter for enough of the important categories that they'll be an acceptable long term choice. I don't believe ANYONE has "6502Programmerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06379249468938652660noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301278.post-54001095339155487032010-01-15T08:28:19.979-06:002010-01-15T08:28:19.979-06:00P.S. I'm a Heather, too. :)P.S. I'm a Heather, too. :)KansasCityGypsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06072592320542686300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301278.post-56420430305935168762010-01-15T08:27:23.936-06:002010-01-15T08:27:23.936-06:00They're right - this is what he needs to hear....They're right - this is what he needs to hear. All is not lost. And no one is perfect. Mr. Charming has yet unrevealed vulnerabilities and quirks that you, too, will have to learn to love and live with if you're serious that he may be the one you're willing to hang in there with.<br /><br />What do you have to lose?KansasCityGypsyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06072592320542686300noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301278.post-7393427666698029902010-01-14T19:51:44.957-06:002010-01-14T19:51:44.957-06:00I'm speechless. I think some of the other com...I'm speechless. I think some of the other comments have some good advice.Donna. Whttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18393352099473686196noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301278.post-46640124062254426452010-01-14T19:36:34.037-06:002010-01-14T19:36:34.037-06:00I wish I had some good advice. But every relation...I wish I had some good advice. But every relationship I've ever had has ended and the only thing they all have in common is me.<br /><br />But I have to think that if you talked to him and were as honest, open and vulnerable with his as you were with us, he would listen.<br /><br />Give it a shot. What do you have to lose?Xavier Onassishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01345787343828318445noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301278.post-43774713553411245372010-01-14T18:39:44.129-06:002010-01-14T18:39:44.129-06:00Talk to him, girl ~ go talk to him!!!
Sending you ...Talk to him, girl ~ go talk to him!!!<br />Sending you positive thoughts for peace & understanding & serenity ~~~bobbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14353836074794786357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301278.post-69714525777025289372010-01-14T17:58:55.668-06:002010-01-14T17:58:55.668-06:00That was powerful. Damn.That was powerful. Damn.Maureen Lawlorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01643623703785296562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301278.post-37999290461540009912010-01-14T17:48:50.106-06:002010-01-14T17:48:50.106-06:00given a certain history,I may not be in the best p...given a certain history,I may not be in the best position to comment here, but I kinda know how you feel.I pretty much fucked up every relationship I was in, and after my kid moves out it will be just me and the cat.Except I have no idea why I am this way,I never had any childhood trauma I can trace it back to.sucks to be like this but after few tries I don't expect anything else to happen. kcmeeshahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16640259113083899984noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7301278.post-81606092242031599652010-01-14T17:01:04.243-06:002010-01-14T17:01:04.243-06:00What an honest post...with self-awareness, though,...What an honest post...with self-awareness, though, you already sound like you've got the problem identified, now do something about it! <br /><br />Thanks for your honesty. well done.StorytellERdochttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14371229500424449124noreply@blogger.com